Helping Fellow Humans
I’ve spent much of the year thinking and talking about how challenging, annoying, frustrating, and just so freaking imperfect human beings are…
On relationships
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Open-Ended Questions
I think about open-ended questions like they are French doors. Sometimes, we have burning open-ended questions we are just *itching* to ask. This is how I imagine it going.
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Taking the Leap
There’s an interesting dynamic you have to deal with when you try to carve out your own little space online. You’ll learn that there’s a line you have to cross before you can connect with other people on a social (human) level.
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Come As You Are
In our society, we strive for the biggest, most visible gains; we look for and celebrate the “zero to hero.” It seems only natural to think that the most effective way to improve is to look for the biggest weaknesses we can find and “fix” that.
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The Meaning of Home
What is (my) home? Where is it?
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Sharing Activities
What we do for fun or for work does not necessarily correlate to a specific set of values. Just because you meet a potential partner (friend or otherwise) doing the same activity does not mean you necessarily value the same things in a relationship, much less in life.
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How to Help
It can be very easy for me to lose sight of the fact that we are all so different. When I stumble on things that resonate with me and help me, I just want to share them with everyone. I feel this great, positive energy that I want to gift to the world. I completely forget that what works for me doesn’t work for everyone.
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Forgiveness
The art of forgiveness is not one I’ve practiced much… and I do believe that it is an art: It requires talent, or in the absence of talent, the hard work and time of deliberate practice.
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What’s Real
If you truly seek connection and trust, before you jump to judgment and conclude something someone did was meant to harm you, consider your reality, their reality, and look for common ground.
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Assume the Best
Trust and connection are built through looking for what’s probably real, not through looking for trouble and judgment. People’s behaviors can be interpreted through one of two lenses: 1. looking for what’s probably real (for them) or 2. looking for trouble (which usually doesn’t exist, except when we look for it).
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